Revealing the hidden dangers of common parenting practices and steering you towards raising wholesome and grounded children

In this book, Sandra draws from years of coaching parents, supporting families in crisis, and guiding overwhelmed moms, dads, and struggling children / teens, and her message is simple... 

Parenting is too important to leave to instinct. Awareness and taking the right steps in the right direction changes everything.

This book is your guide to becoming a more conscious, emotionally aware, and deeply connected parent.

There comes a moment in every generation when light breaks through confusion, when a voice rises not to condemn parents, but to awaken them. Sandra Oluwadare’s Parenting Pitfalls is one of those rare awakenings.

I have sat with couples who wept over children they loved deeply yet did not understand. I have listened to sons who carried invisible wounds and daughters who learned to smile while dying inside. Again and again, I discovered that love without systems births chaos, and care without clarity creates confusion.
This book exposes that chaos, not with judgment, but with grace.

Sandra doesn’t just write as an expert talking down, she writes as a healer sitting beside you. Her words dismantle the myth of the “natural parent” and reconstruct a new path, one where intention replaces instinct, awareness replaces assumption, and connection replaces control. 

In a world drowning in parenting noise, Parenting Pitfalls feels like a compass. It strips away the pressure to perform and calls every parent to return to the sacred work of nurturing hearts, not just managing behavior. Every chapter is a mirror, sometimes tender, sometimes painful, but always redemptive.

I believe this book will become a reference point for a new generation of families. It is not just a book about parenting, it is a book about healing humanity, one home at a time. It calls us to evolve from raising compliant children to raising conscious ones, from fear-based control to love-anchored leadership, from inherited patterns to intentional design.

If you will allow these pages to read you as much as you read them, you will discover what I call the architecture of emotional safety, and when parents become safe spaces, the world becomes a safer home.

Welcome to a new era of parenting where love learns, humility leads, and every child finally gets to breathe.

Praise Fowowe
Family Systems Engineer | Author | Global Family Life Strategist
Founder, Institute of Family Engineering & Development 

A complete, 31-chapter roadmap to raising emotionally secure, grounded children:

PART I – Understanding the Stakes

Why love isn’t enough, the myth of natural parenting, how culture impacts parenting decisions, etc.

PART II – Core Relationship Mistakes

Control vs connection, hidden neglect, co-parent rivalry, etc.

PART III – Emotional Blind Spots

Conditional love, gaslighting, mislabelled emotions, people-pleasing, etc

AND MUCH MORE...

This is more than a book,  it is a family transformation manual.

Sandra Oluwadare is a Parenting Coach & Family Systems Strategist. With a strong background in child development, family systems engineering, family therapy, parent coaching, and child safety and protection, she brings a comprehensive approach to family dynamics, emotional wellness, and trauma recovery.

As the Founder and Lead Coach at Winning in Parenting, a subsidiary of Family Flourish International, she combines systems and strategy to guide driven parents in navigating the complexities of parenting, raising wholesome and thriving children, while building deeply connected, harmonious family lives, even with their demanding schedules.

To date, she has empowered over 10,000 parents with tools that have restored connection, reduced chaos, and strengthened the parent-child bond in many homes.

She is also building bridges in EdTech through a mentoring hub that equips children and teens with life skills, confidence, emotional regulation, and leadership capacity, preparing them for real-world success.

A passionate advocate, author, speaker, and media contributor, she has shared her insights on both national and global platforms, advocating for the importance of solid family foundations and the impact of intentional parenting in shaping emotionally healthy homes and societies.